honeymoons

My very first post on a blog I hope I keep up with. I've tried before. I've failed. So here's to something new. Which I honestly did not mean to tie into my title like this, but it fits...the honeymoon period. A very exciting start, but what will I do when that dies down a little? I guess I could be talking about marriage, but I think there are lots of honeymoons we may go through in life. Will this be deep, or just plain stupid?:} Not sure I should write late at night for this very reason. But anyway, what made me think of this was me just going through our old family pictures tonight. Pictures on facebook from long ago, lol. 2010 to be exact! My son was just one year old. Someone had liked an old one from the album on there so I looked through & settled on one picture of the husband & my son. I don't know why it kind of made me wanna cry, but I finally ended up with that that was our honeymoon period...our family. First baby, first year, first time we'd ever been anything more than a couple. N (our son) was cheesing his head off, showing off the few teeth he had, and my husband was holding him looking ever-so-proud. And we were. SO proud! Ok so my kid has had an amazing amount of energy from day 1, but we were still at the stage where we held him most of the time. The stage before him testing his boundaries, testing his parents. The stage before *gasp*-spankings! Oh what a lovely stage. It made me a little sad I guess. Just today we had to redirect said kid for what seemed like 100 times per hour (not true, but it felt like it!). And, now that he's 3, there's preschool, good & bad reports, him making decisions pretty much on his own. I should reiterate that, yep, we do believe in spankings. On the "booty", as N says. We don't believe in beating, don't believe in "bringing blood", ha. But, trust me, we spank. Anyway...it's just that seeing that picture made me think of a time when daddy's main job was holding & feeding. As was mine. It was free of a lot of the stuff that takes so much work right now. Free of the redirecting/scolding/teaching/discipline...all that fun parent stuff;-). And when I saw them like that, all blissful and "you can do no wrong"ish, it made me think that the whole honeymoon thing goes for families too. Probably not a new concept, but new to me. So what now? Do I want that back-like, would I take it again & leave all we've worked through up until now? Umm never! Holy cow, so much work. Haha. Seriously, I would never. We're (claiming it!) making a little person into a great man. It's easy to lose sight of. It hurts some days. Sometimes you wonder if your are for real doing much good. Lucky that we have God to consult, or I can tell you it wouldn't be pretty! And some days, it's still not. We're imperfect with him, and with each other. We snap & pray for wisdom. But we're prayin' and claimin' and banking on the fact that N will grow up to be a man who loves God, and loves others. Who has discipline and integrity. And who will take all that passion (let me tell you, this kid's got passion) and put it into whatever it is God wants:-). I love him! Do I love him less than in the beginning when it was easy? Of course not! Of course it's more :}. So this is panning out to be more of a novel, but I've gotta say...this is marriage as well. I loved my fella then, I love him now. We're more prone at times to take each other for granted 9+ years later, and possibly more prone to careless words here & there when we're rushed and things are crazy. We have 2 kids now, so yes sometimes it's crasssy. We don't have the time, just us, like we did in the beginning. Some days you'd like to rewind your marriage, and take that time in the beginning & run with it, lol. But honestly I wouldn't. When people say they love their partner in life more and more, I can see that. It changes some...and grows. By the way I don't mean you have to totally move past that period-I don't think you have to! So many things about marriage+growing kids is still amazingly fun. Sooo that's my lesson for today...my own lesson to myself:). A reminder to sometimes move past the honeymoon & stick with the people you love always. **And ohh my what better a time than now to wish my parents, who have what I'd call a pretty outstanding marriage: ), a happy anniversary!  34 years! I looove y'all.**